Ready to shift gears and live your best life?

Hi, you all!

Have you ever caught yourself thinking: "Why did this happen?" - "I should have seen this coming!" - "How did it get to this point?"

It’s something I see time and again—on the news, in articles, and especially in the people I coach. When something unexpected happens, or life doesn’t go as planned, we often rush to look back. To find the cause. To figure out what went wrong. To point out who (or what) is to blame.

And sure, reflection has its place. Understanding the past can be helpful. But when we only look back, we can miss something much more valuable:

💡 The potential in what’s happening now.

Let me tell you about Steven* (Different name—for the sake of privacy.)

Steven is one of the toughest clients I’ve ever worked with. He’s intelligent, sensitive, passionate—and deeply stuck.

His story sounds something like this:

🌀 “I can’t do stuff because of my health.”

🌀 “I always do stupid things—but only because of what others do first.”

🌀 “People don’t treat me right, and that’s why I’m unhappy.”

🌀 “I’m all about love, but no one sees or respects that.”

🌀 “I’m smarter than everyone else, and that’s why they ignore me.”

Can you hear the trap?

He’s constantly casting himself in the role of the victim and the misunderstood genius. And while his pain is very real, this narrative keeps him from seeing what’s actually possible right now.

But what if Steven* asked different questions?

🌱 What is this situation trying to show me—about me?

🌱 Where am I giving away my power by blaming others?

🌱 What do I need to take ownership of, even if it's uncomfortable?

🌱 What wants to grow in me that I’ve been afraid to see?

If Steven* could sit with those questions—not to fix himself, but to listen with curiosity—he might discover that his sensitivity is a strength when grounded in responsibility. That his intelligence can connect, not separate, when shared with humility. And that love, when truly lived, begins with respecting himself enough to step out of the old story.

So here’s a question for you:

Do you recognize even a little of Steven in yourself? That part that feels stuck, misunderstood, or always reacting to others?

✨ What would happen if you shifted your attention—not to the past, but to what’s trying to grow now?

✨ What if you stopped asking, "Why is this happening to me?" and started asking, "What is life inviting me to become?"

You don’t have to figure it all out. Just begin by listening differently.

Ready to shift gears and live your best life? Old stories can feel safe, even when they keep us small. But when you start asking new questions, a new path opens up—one that leads to clarity, strength, and authentic joy.

Sometimes it’s hard to shift on your own. If you’re ready to stop repeating the old stories and start writing a new one, You know I’d love to support you if you are open to that.

Start with scheduling a free clarity session.

 Let’s find out what’s possible when you start asking new questions. Sessions are in English en in het Nederlands.



With warmth and encouragement,

Dimka